What to do about meal times
For a long time I was just so grateful for the peace that I was happy to accommodate whatever whims they had. Then this week after an exceptionally grueling morning I saw that this has gone past just meeting their needs.
Much of the desperation has been met and they are calmer happier children. Good job by me! But there does come a time when we need to move on to the next step. Thank you for the advice of how to get there. I have just placed breakfast on the kitchen counter and lovingly led them to it.
I have a blanket handy for the cold one and I am right there to get more of what ever, heat up or cool down. This was morning three and so far so good. I can sit between them and give them smooches on their heads and behind their ears. So far no real resistance… I think they were ready to move up too..
I had a talk with DH after reading your posts and we both love the idea of talking with Bogdan about the stash in his bedroom and suggesting it is ok to search for food, but before he goes could he come get filled up with mommy and daddy love.
I also plan to have a talk about maybe throwing away the stuff in there that may go bad. There is a plate with hot Cheetos and I bet they could sit there for 20 years and not go bad with all the preservatives! But still they are in the open and well yuck!
We also talked about how changing these eating rules will make the boys dis-regulated and I asked him to try not to get angry back. It is OK if they don’t like it and do not try to talk them out of their anger just tell them it is ok to be mad. I think he gets it…
Today has been very happy and calm so maybe my fears of changing things was my own problem! Better think on that for a while. Anyway thanks to all I will keep you posted on the progress…
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parenting discipline | comish May 7, 2010
